What It's Like Being a Mom With ADHD

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How to Cope as a Mom With ADHD

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The phone is ringing. Two of your kids are arguing and yelling. The dog is scratching at the door to go out. Your toddler is at your feet crying and wanting to be picked up. The UPS guy is at the door with a delivery. Your spouse is still at work. A pot of water is boiling on the stove ready for spaghetti. Everyone is starving and cranky because you put dinner on late. You are exasperated, tired, and overwhelmed.

At times, it leads you to drop the ball on important tasks or responsibilities, like remembering to pick up your kid’s soccer uniform or signing that school form he needs to submit. You forget appointments, to take the laundry out of the washer, or to give the dog his medication. You can’t seem to stay focused on tasks such as paying bills or cleaning.

While most mothers will have off days that consist of any number of these things, a mother with ADHD deals with this constantly—especially when their ADHD is left untreated.

Moms are often the family manager, caregiver, disciplinarian, nutritionist, cook, homework helper, scheduler, taxi driver, mediator, nurse, and housekeeper. They fill many different roles and most inevitably feel that they fail to measure up. Moms can be very hard on themselves. Worry comes naturally, and guilt is second nature.

While these are common feelings that most mothers experience at one time or another, a mom with ADHD often feels them to a greater degree and more frequently. How on earth can you take on all these roles for your family when you struggle daily with organizing and prioritizing your own life?

Many mothers with ADHD wish they could be less hard on themselves, that others could understand how their neurotype presents challenges withattention, focus, and memory, that workplaces and schools couldaccommodate mothers with ADHD, and that their friends and loved ones would educate themselves on ADHD. In addition, many wish their spouses could make more of an effort to understand their daily struggles.

Coping With ADHD in Romantic Relationships

If you are a mom with ADHD, let go of the unrealistic “supermom” pressure. Be kind to yourself. Make a list of the things you are good at and embrace these qualities. If there are areas where you need help, such as remembering appointments, you can tryvisual and auditory reminders, such as setting calendar appointments on your phone or setting alarms.

Or if you struggle with getting meals on the table, try using a meal planning app that you can download to your phone. Whatever you struggle with most, enlist aid in those areas.

Educate your loved ones. Bring your husband to an appointment with yourhealthcare provider. You may try to explain your diagnosis, but sometimes hearing about ADHD from a doctor will give loved ones a better understanding of the neurotype and will help to validate what you are going through.

Together, you can come up with strategies to help the home run more smoothly and give you the support you need.

How to Find an ADHD Support Group

SourcesVerywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.MomsRising.org. Parenting with ADHD.Seay, Bob. ADDitude Magazine: Inside the ADD Mind. Stop Being Supermom!

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Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.MomsRising.org. Parenting with ADHD.Seay, Bob. ADDitude Magazine: Inside the ADD Mind. Stop Being Supermom!

Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.

MomsRising.org. Parenting with ADHD.Seay, Bob. ADDitude Magazine: Inside the ADD Mind. Stop Being Supermom!

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