What Is Positive Self-Talk?

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Positive Self-Talk vs. Negative Self-Talk

Benefits of Positive Self-Talk

How to Switch to Positive Self-Talk

Replace Negative Statements

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Positive self-talk involves having an inner dialogue that is primarily optimistic and positive. These thoughts and statements are the ones that build you up, increase your motivation, and make you feel good about yourself and your abilities.

How you talk to and about yourself can have a major impact on many areas of your life. Self-talk refers to the way yourinner voicemakes sense of the world around you and the way you. How you communicate with your inner self can affect everything from your self-esteem to your motivation to your relationships.

At a GlancePositive self-talk can give you that extra boost that helps you feel happy, fulfilled, and good about yourself and your life. It can also help combat feelings of anxiety and depression, which is why it’s important to switch negative self-talk to an inner dialogue that is more helpful and positive. Identifying your thoughts and making a conscious effort to change them can be a great place to start.

At a Glance

Positive self-talk can give you that extra boost that helps you feel happy, fulfilled, and good about yourself and your life. It can also help combat feelings of anxiety and depression, which is why it’s important to switch negative self-talk to an inner dialogue that is more helpful and positive. Identifying your thoughts and making a conscious effort to change them can be a great place to start.

Positive Self-Talk"I made a mistake.““This is hard, but I’ll keep trying.““I’m still figuring things out.““I can keep learning and get better.““I know I can succeed.““I’m able to grow and change.“Negative Self-Talk"I’m an idiot.““I’ll never get it right; I give up.““I never do anything right.““I’m terrible at this.““I’m not good enough.““I’ll never change.”

Positive Self-Talk"I made a mistake.““This is hard, but I’ll keep trying.““I’m still figuring things out.““I can keep learning and get better.““I know I can succeed.““I’m able to grow and change.”

“I made a mistake.”

“This is hard, but I’ll keep trying.”

“I’m still figuring things out.”

“I can keep learning and get better.”

“I know I can succeed.”

“I’m able to grow and change.”

Negative Self-Talk"I’m an idiot.““I’ll never get it right; I give up.““I never do anything right.““I’m terrible at this.““I’m not good enough.““I’ll never change.”

“I’m an idiot.”

“I’ll never get it right; I give up.”

“I never do anything right.”

“I’m terrible at this.”

“I’m not good enough.”

“I’ll never change.”

Signs of Negative Self-Talk

If yourself-talk is generally negative, you may be perceiving events in your life as more stressful than they need to be and creating unnecessary anxiety and stress for yourself.For example:

Patterns of negative orpositive self-talkoften start in childhood. Usually, the self-talk habit is one that’s colored our thinking for years and canaffect us in many ways, influencing the experience of stress in our lives.However, any time can be a good time to change it.

Positive self-talk can improve your resilience, mental well-being, and motivation. Some of the benefits of this type of uplifting self-talk include:

Try “You” Instead of “I"Research suggests that using “you” or even your own first name in your positive self-talk can help maximize the benefits. So instead of thinking, “I can do it,” try staying to yourself, “You can do it.”

Try “You” Instead of “I”

Research suggests that using “you” or even your own first name in your positive self-talk can help maximize the benefits. So instead of thinking, “I can do it,” try staying to yourself, “You can do it.”

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If you frequently engage in negative self-talk, there are things that you can do to start switching to more positive self-talk. If these techniques don’t work for you, consider seeing a therapist. They can utilizecognitive behavioral therapyto help you develop strategies to challenge negative thoughts and cognitive distortions.

Notice Your Patterns

The first step toward change is to become more aware of the problem. You probably don’t realize how often you say negative things in your head or how much it affects your experience. Once you become more aware of your patterns, you can start making a conscious choice to shift your internal dialogue to be more positive, optimistic, or neutral.

Write in a Journal

Journaling can be a helpful tool for shifting your thoughts to be more positive.You might try:

Once you collected some thoughts, you can later go back to analyze the contents of your journal. Journaling can be an effective tool for examining your inner process and spotting harmful patterns.

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Thought-Stopping

Plus, having to say it aloud will make you more aware of how many times you are stopping negative thoughts.

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Replace Negative Statements  With Positive Self-Talk

A good way to stop a bad habit is to replace it with something better. Once you’re aware of your internal dialogue, here are some ways to change it:

Milder Wording

Have you ever been to a hospital and noticed how the nurses talk about ‘discomfort’ instead of ‘pain’? This is generally done because ‘pain’ is a much more powerful word, and discussing your ‘pain’ level can actually make your experience of it more intense than if you’re discussing your ‘discomfort’ level.

You can try this strategy in your daily life. In your self-talk, turning more powerful negative words to more neutral ones can actually help neutralize your experience.

Instead of using words like ‘hate’ and ‘angry’ (as in, “Ihatetraffic! It makes me soangry!”), you can use words like ‘don’t like’ and ‘annoyed’ (“I don’t like traffic; it makes me annoyed,” sounds much milder, doesn’t it?)

Negative to Neutral or Positive

As you find yourself mentally complaining about something, rethink your assumptions. Are you assuming something is a negative event when it isn’t, necessarily?

For example, having your plans canceled at the last minute can be seen as a negative, but what you do with your newly-freed schedule can be what you make of it. The next time you find yourself stressing about something or deciding you’re not up to a challenge, stop and rethink, and see if you can come up with a neutral or positive replacement.

Self-Limiting Statements to Questions

Self-limiting statements like “I can’t handle this!” or “This is impossible!” are particularly damaging because they increase your stress in a given situationandthey stop you from searching for solutions.

The next time you find yourself thinking something that limits the possibilities of a given situation, turn it into a question.

What This Means For YouIf you tend to be down on yourself, switching to positive self-talk really can do wonders for boosting your mood and motivation. Take notice whenever you engage in negative self-talk, and then work to replace those thoughts with positive ones. It takes time and effort, but the results are well worth it.If you struggle to use positive self-talk, consider talking to a mental health professional. They can use techniques like cognitive reframing or cognitive restructuring to help change how you speak to yourself.

What This Means For You

If you tend to be down on yourself, switching to positive self-talk really can do wonders for boosting your mood and motivation. Take notice whenever you engage in negative self-talk, and then work to replace those thoughts with positive ones. It takes time and effort, but the results are well worth it.If you struggle to use positive self-talk, consider talking to a mental health professional. They can use techniques like cognitive reframing or cognitive restructuring to help change how you speak to yourself.

If you tend to be down on yourself, switching to positive self-talk really can do wonders for boosting your mood and motivation. Take notice whenever you engage in negative self-talk, and then work to replace those thoughts with positive ones. It takes time and effort, but the results are well worth it.

If you struggle to use positive self-talk, consider talking to a mental health professional. They can use techniques like cognitive reframing or cognitive restructuring to help change how you speak to yourself.

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