Table of ContentsView AllTable of ContentsThe Attachment Style QuizThe Four Attachment StylesWhat Should I Know About Attachment?Who Is This Attachment Style Quiz For?Is My Attachment Set in Stone?
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The Attachment Style Quiz
The Four Attachment Styles
What Should I Know About Attachment?
Who Is This Attachment Style Quiz For?
Is My Attachment Set in Stone?
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This short free 15-question quiz measures feelings associated with the four main attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. This quiz is not a formal medical or diagnostic test and should not be interpreted as clinical or medical advice.
Early attachment styles may not be exactly the same as those in adult relationships, but they can be a good predictor of adult behavior patterns.
Your attachment style consists of a variation of attachment strategies, which strategies show up the most depend on the overall safety you have felt in relationships.—YOLANDA RENTERIA, LPC
Your attachment style consists of a variation of attachment strategies, which strategies show up the most depend on the overall safety you have felt in relationships.
—YOLANDA RENTERIA, LPC
Secure Attachment
Those of us with a secure attachment style are able to build healthy long-term relationships. A secure attachment generally leads to good self-esteem and the ability to enjoy close relationships, seek social support, and share feelings with others.
To put it simply, secure attachment is what most of us want.
Children who develop this attachment style had parents or primary caregivers who were more attentive to their needs. They felt safe, loved, and understood. Securely attached children sought comfort from the parent or caregiver when scared and preferred the comfort of this adult to strangers.
Research suggests that securely attached children are more empathetic as they get older.
Anxious or Ambivalent Attachment
Anxious attachment style, also called ambivalent attachment, is a type ofinsecureattachment. If you have this attachment style, you may tend to be wary of getting close to others and worry whether a romantic partner loves you or not.
It’s not easy for any of us when a relationship ends, but anxious attachment can make things especially difficult.
Avoidant Attachment
In some cases, this may look like what is commonly called “commitment phobia.”
Those of us with this attachment style may not invest as much emotion in relationships as others, and tend not to be as disappointed when relationships end. That last part may sound like a good way to protect ourselves from getting hurt (and it is!), but it’s also a good way to prevent ourselves from finding meaningful, long-lasting relationships.
Children with an avoidant attachment may have had caregivers who weren’t emotionally available. They may have been left to take care of themselves because they couldn’t rely on a parent or guardian. These children might avoid parents and caregivers and not have a preference between a caregiver and a stranger.
Disorganized Attachment
Adisorganized attachment styleincludes a mix of behaviors. A person with this attachment style might be clingy at one time and emotionally distant at another time. It’s typically a response to parents or caregivers who may have been abusive or neglectful.
A child with a disorganized attachment style might feel both fear and comfort toward a caregiver, which can be confusing.
Your bond with a primary caregiver forms the basis for your attachment with others. Children who can rely on their caregivers to be there consistently and meet their basic and emotional needs will likely see the same trend in other relationships and believe it’s safe to rely on others for comfort.
We all want to know why our relationships work—or don’t work, as the case may be. While a number of factors contribute to the success or failure of our long-term relationships, our attachment style represents a possible underlying explanation for our relationship behaviors that we didn’t previously understand.
This quiz can be helpful if you want to learn more about attachment styles, what yours may be, and how attachment could impact your relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners. It can help you better understand your behaviors in relationships and determine if you could benefit from working with a mental health professional to discuss concerns about your attachment.
Attachment theory has been making waves in recent years as we explore more ways in which the events of our childhood years can impact us today, especially with regards to our romantic and other close interpersonal relationships. The topic has exploded on TikTok, to the tune of over16 million viewstied to attachment, as mental health professionals and influencers alike take to the social media platform to share their knowledge of the topic.
Remember, it’s called attachmenttheoryfor a reason. How we act under certain circumstances doesn’t define the rest of our lives and all future relationships. So even if you think you have a fix on your attachment style after taking this quiz, know that it may only be one small piece of the puzzle that is your life.
Old behaviors can be unlearned and replaced with new ones, and even a string of unsuccessful relationships doesn’t mean you have an insecure attachment style. All it may take is the right person and the right relationship to overturn everything you think you knew about your connection and attachment to others.
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