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If you’ve ever had a dream about someone unexpected, such as an ex, co-worker, or crush, you might wonder why they might appear in your dreams. While dreams are often centered on daytime thoughts and concerns, they can also reflectunconscious thoughts or feelingsabout others. In other cases, dreams symbolically represent something else entirely.
Understanding what dreaming about another person means can provide insight into things you may be thinking or worrying about, potentially without even realizing it. Read on to start todecode your dreamsand what they might say about you.
Dreaming About Someone Can Reveal Unconscious Feelings
The psychoanalystSigmund Freudplayed a significant role in connecting dream interpretation to the field of psychology. Freud suggested that dreams are one way to access the unconscious mind, which he described as a vast reservoir of thoughts, feelings, and desires hidden from conscious awareness.
Even though the contents of the unconscious are not directly accessible, Freud still believed that these thoughts, memories, and desires could still have an influence on behavior. Freud also believed the unconscious could be explored through processes such asdream analysis,free association, hypnosis,Freudian slips, and psychoanalysis.
Freud believed that bringing unconscious information to light could help alleviate psychological distress. If dreaming about someone has left you upset, distressed, or just plain baffled, exploring your dream’s meaning may help you make sense of what it might mean.
Breaking Down Your Dreams of Someone Else
According to Jesse Lyon, a licensed mental health counselor and owner ofLyon Counselingin Casselberry, Florida, before we can understand what it means to dream about someone, it is essential to first understand that dreams communicate information on two different levels. These levels are known as the manifest content and the latent content.
Sigmund Freud famously described these two aspects of dreams in his seminal book “The Interpretation of Dreams.” Freud suggested that dreams were highly symbolic and contained literal meanings (the manifest content) and symbolic meanings (the latent content).
Manifest Content of Dreams
Themanifest contentof a dream refers to the actual events and images that take place within the dream. This is the imagery and storyline that you remember upon waking. If you dream about someone, the manifest content would be the details about that individual, their appearance, the events that take place, and the interactions you have within the dream.
“Manifest content is very literal and will communicate with you directly about a problem you have or situation you experienced,” Lyon explains. “For example, you might dream about getting into an argument with your romantic partner because you are currentlyexperiencing conflict in your relationship; this is pretty straightforward dream processing.”
Another example might be having a dream about attending a concert with a close friend you haven’t seen in a long time. The manifest content would be the events, your friend’s words and reactions, and the other sensory and perceptual elements you experience as a dreamer.
The manifest content may not, however, necessarily reflect the underlying meaning of the dream. It is through analyzing the latent content—or the symbolic meaning—that you might get a better idea of what your dream might mean.
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Latent Content of Dreams
Thelatent contentof a dream, Lyon notes, is much more personal and emotional. This involves the subconscious meaning of the dream, or what dream interpreters would say is the hidden meaning behind your dream. In the previous example of arguing with a partner, Lyon explains, it might mean that the person is struggling with feeling unworthy of their partner’s love.
Dreaming about a friend you haven’t seen in years might symbolically represent a subconsciousyearning for reconnectionor a desire tofind closure for unresolved feelings. Or it might indicate a broader desire for more social connection and companionship in general.
Examples of Dream Symbolism"If you ever see someone show up in your dreams, ask yourself: ‘What does this person symbolize to me?'" Lyon suggests. If it’s your:Boss: It might represent struggles with authority.Mother: You might be dealing with struggles related to femininity and self-nurturance.High-school teacher: You might be coping with feeling judged or graded.
Examples of Dream Symbolism
“If you ever see someone show up in your dreams, ask yourself: ‘What does this person symbolize to me?'” Lyon suggests. If it’s your:Boss: It might represent struggles with authority.Mother: You might be dealing with struggles related to femininity and self-nurturance.High-school teacher: You might be coping with feeling judged or graded.
“If you ever see someone show up in your dreams, ask yourself: ‘What does this person symbolize to me?'” Lyon suggests. If it’s your:
If You Dream About Romance and Relationships
What does it mean if you dream about your crush or about dating someone? Dreaming about a crush might be about the obvious meaning—you are interested in being with them romantically. However, Lyon notes, that isn’t necessarily the whole story.
Because dreams have manifest (or literal) content and latent (or more symbolic) meanings, it is essential to consider both. The manifest content of your dreams might reveal deeper, subconscious meanings that are worth exploring, particularly if you have a romantic dream about someone who isn’t necessarily a potential romantic partner (such as one of a friend or boss).
“Romantic involvementis all about connection,” Lyon explains. “So, if you are on a date, or even having sex with someone you would not expect, that person symbolizes an area of your life that you need to connect with more deeply.”
Meaning Behind Romantic Dreams About SomeoneAccording to Lyon, these dreams might be more about:Control over your own life: “If you dream about having sex with your boss, you may notactuallywant to have sex with them, but you definitely need to consider how you connect with your own authority and assertiveness over your life’s direction.“Letting go of emotional baggage: “If you dream about having sex with your ex, you may not actually want to get back with them, but you should definitely consider what unresolved baggage from your past that you need to connect with and let go.“Personal growth: “If you dream about having sex with your friend, think about what are the most important characteristics of your friend. Chances are your mind is trying to teach you how to grow as a person and connect with those admirablepersonality traits.”
Meaning Behind Romantic Dreams About Someone
According to Lyon, these dreams might be more about:Control over your own life: “If you dream about having sex with your boss, you may notactuallywant to have sex with them, but you definitely need to consider how you connect with your own authority and assertiveness over your life’s direction.“Letting go of emotional baggage: “If you dream about having sex with your ex, you may not actually want to get back with them, but you should definitely consider what unresolved baggage from your past that you need to connect with and let go.“Personal growth: “If you dream about having sex with your friend, think about what are the most important characteristics of your friend. Chances are your mind is trying to teach you how to grow as a person and connect with those admirablepersonality traits.”
According to Lyon, these dreams might be more about:
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What Dreaming About Someone Can Tell Us
Dreams can provide insights into our subconscious thoughts, feelings, desires, and fears. They can also offer a perspective that can helpdeepen your relationshipsin ways that support connection and mental well-being.
Lyon notes it is important to remember that all the roles we play in life act as characters that live inside our minds. The characters we play (such as parent, partner, friend, or colleague) make up the complete picture of who we are as individuals.
—JESSE LYON, LMHC, LYON COUNSELING
“By learning to understand and accept all of the different characters that live inside of us, we become more complete as a person and can thenlove others with greater empathyand understanding,” Lyon says.
Dream Interpretation Is Not One-Size-Fits-All
It is important to remember that dream interpretation is highly personal. The specific meaning of someone appearing in a dream depends on factors that are unique to you. Examining your dreams and trying to understand their meanings, both literal and symbolic, can give you greater insights into your own thoughts, emotions, and relationships.
“That’s the power of dreams!” Lyon says. “To help us grow and understand ourselves in ways that we could never do while awake and, from these insights,find peace within ourselvesand carry that peace to others.”
Frequently Asked QuestionsNo. Dreaming about someone is a reflection of your own thoughts and subconscious feelings versus an indication of how they are feeling or thinking about you. That’s why it is important not to make inferences about what others might think based on your dreams.While two people can certainly dream about the same topic or have similar dreams, their dreams would still differ in various ways.Similarities in dreams are most likely due to factors such as shared experiences, connections, and cultural influences. For example, two friends who attended the same event might have dreams with similar elements.Common dream themes do exist that often show up in many people’s dreams. Some things that people commonly dream about include being late, falling, flying, school-related activities, sex, and being chased.Learn More:Why People Have Similar Dreams
Frequently Asked Questions
No. Dreaming about someone is a reflection of your own thoughts and subconscious feelings versus an indication of how they are feeling or thinking about you. That’s why it is important not to make inferences about what others might think based on your dreams.
While two people can certainly dream about the same topic or have similar dreams, their dreams would still differ in various ways.Similarities in dreams are most likely due to factors such as shared experiences, connections, and cultural influences. For example, two friends who attended the same event might have dreams with similar elements.Common dream themes do exist that often show up in many people’s dreams. Some things that people commonly dream about include being late, falling, flying, school-related activities, sex, and being chased.Learn More:Why People Have Similar Dreams
While two people can certainly dream about the same topic or have similar dreams, their dreams would still differ in various ways.Similarities in dreams are most likely due to factors such as shared experiences, connections, and cultural influences. For example, two friends who attended the same event might have dreams with similar elements.Common dream themes do exist that often show up in many people’s dreams. Some things that people commonly dream about include being late, falling, flying, school-related activities, sex, and being chased.
While two people can certainly dream about the same topic or have similar dreams, their dreams would still differ in various ways.
Similarities in dreams are most likely due to factors such as shared experiences, connections, and cultural influences. For example, two friends who attended the same event might have dreams with similar elements.
Common dream themes do exist that often show up in many people’s dreams. Some things that people commonly dream about include being late, falling, flying, school-related activities, sex, and being chased.
Learn More:Why People Have Similar Dreams
3 SourcesVerywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol. 2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol.2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553Weinstein N, Campbell R, Vansteenkiste M.Linking psychological need experiences to daily and recurring dreams.Motiv Emot. 2018;42(1):50-63. doi:10.1007/s11031-017-9656-0
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Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol. 2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol.2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553Weinstein N, Campbell R, Vansteenkiste M.Linking psychological need experiences to daily and recurring dreams.Motiv Emot. 2018;42(1):50-63. doi:10.1007/s11031-017-9656-0
Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.
Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol. 2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol.2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553Weinstein N, Campbell R, Vansteenkiste M.Linking psychological need experiences to daily and recurring dreams.Motiv Emot. 2018;42(1):50-63. doi:10.1007/s11031-017-9656-0
Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol. 2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553
Zhang W, Guo B.Freud’s dream interpretation: A different perspective based on the self-organization theory of dreaming.Front Psychol.2018;9:1553. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.01553
Weinstein N, Campbell R, Vansteenkiste M.Linking psychological need experiences to daily and recurring dreams.Motiv Emot. 2018;42(1):50-63. doi:10.1007/s11031-017-9656-0
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