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Mental Health HomepageConditions LibraryConditions CategoryConditions CategoryThe Unexpectedly Positive Attributes of Anxiety
Table of Contents:OverviewYou’re constantly thinking of what can go wrongYou Worry About What Other People Think of YouYou RuminateFocus on the Positive
Anxiety DisorderRead Time: 5 Minutes
Published On: April 18, 2018
Reviewed On: April 18, 2018
Updated On: November 2, 2023
Overview
We all get anxious sometimes:first-date butterflies, taking a test worth 33% of our final grade, or driving away from home only to wonder if wereallyturned off the stove. Most of the time, these everyday worries pass.
Understanding these habits is the first step toward living happily and healthily with an anxiety disorder. And the news isn’t all bad: Many of the habits people with anxiety express can actually be good qualities if channeled in the right way. Here are some common habits of people with anxiety, and how you can find your secret strengths inside of these behaviors.
You’re constantly thinking of what can go wrongIf you have an anxiety disorder, you’re familiar with the seemingly endless parade of thoughts that go through your head. It’s as if your brain catalogues every last thing that can go wrong in every possible situation. Many people with anxiety feel they have little control over these kinds of thoughts — which can be totally exhausting.Surprising Benefit of WorryingWhile excessive worry can prevent you from trying out new opportunities, some alertness about potential dangers has its benefits. Researchers have found that people with anxiety are actuallybetter at responding to threatthan people without anxiety, since their brains process threat more efficiently. This has positive effects: As one study showed, people who have anxietyactually do avoid fatal accidentsmore than people without anxiety.The Fix:Whenever worry about what could go wrong starts to get you down, remind yourself that you’re actuallymorecapable of dealing with threat than other people. Think of a time when everything did go wrong and of how capably you handled it. Even if things do go wrong again, you’ll be able to deal with it — maybe even better than non-anxious people.
You’re constantly thinking of what can go wrong
If you have an anxiety disorder, you’re familiar with the seemingly endless parade of thoughts that go through your head. It’s as if your brain catalogues every last thing that can go wrong in every possible situation. Many people with anxiety feel they have little control over these kinds of thoughts — which can be totally exhausting.
Surprising Benefit of Worrying
While excessive worry can prevent you from trying out new opportunities, some alertness about potential dangers has its benefits. Researchers have found that people with anxiety are actuallybetter at responding to threatthan people without anxiety, since their brains process threat more efficiently. This has positive effects: As one study showed, people who have anxietyactually do avoid fatal accidentsmore than people without anxiety.
The Fix:
Whenever worry about what could go wrong starts to get you down, remind yourself that you’re actuallymorecapable of dealing with threat than other people. Think of a time when everything did go wrong and of how capably you handled it. Even if things do go wrong again, you’ll be able to deal with it — maybe even better than non-anxious people.
You Worry About What Other People Think of YouFor people with social anxiety, normal social situations like meetings or parties can be super intimidating. You may obsess about how other people perceive you or worry that you’ll make a fool of yourself in front of everybody. These fears are inaccurate — the reality is that you’re doing just fine! But anxiety can even prevent you from enjoying social time with others and may tempt you to isolate yourself.Surprising Benefit of Social AnxietyWhile caring so much about what other people think of you can be exhausting, it shouldn’t hold you back from daily activities. There are also benefits to being highly sensitive. Researchers have found thatpeople with social anxietyare more empathetic than those without, and have increased ability to understand other people’s emotions.The FixRemind yourself that other people’s opinions won’t make or break you, and that most people are self-conscious. Remember that your empathy actually makes youbetterat dealing with other people, not worse. Direct those empathic skills into building healthy, caring relationships with the people around you. Use your empathic powers to remind your loved ones that you care: Bake them a cake, take them on a nice date, or write them a love letter.
You Worry About What Other People Think of You
For people with social anxiety, normal social situations like meetings or parties can be super intimidating. You may obsess about how other people perceive you or worry that you’ll make a fool of yourself in front of everybody. These fears are inaccurate — the reality is that you’re doing just fine! But anxiety can even prevent you from enjoying social time with others and may tempt you to isolate yourself.
Surprising Benefit of Social Anxiety
While caring so much about what other people think of you can be exhausting, it shouldn’t hold you back from daily activities. There are also benefits to being highly sensitive. Researchers have found thatpeople with social anxietyare more empathetic than those without, and have increased ability to understand other people’s emotions.
The Fix
Remind yourself that other people’s opinions won’t make or break you, and that most people are self-conscious. Remember that your empathy actually makes youbetterat dealing with other people, not worse. Direct those empathic skills into building healthy, caring relationships with the people around you. Use your empathic powers to remind your loved ones that you care: Bake them a cake, take them on a nice date, or write them a love letter.
You RuminateYour thoughts spin around and around the same few topics, and you can’t seem to get out of their grasp. This is rumination, a thought pattern wherein several thoughts constantly repeat themselves. Rumination can make people who suffer it feel trapped in their own minds. Yet it’s also a sign of depth of thought, and when channeled correctly it can be a helpful quality.Surprising Benefit of RuminationYou have high intelligence! Several studies have shown that people with anxietytend to bemoreintelligentthan people without. Rumination may be frustrating to experience, but it’s also correlated withhigh verbal intelligence. In fact, lots of famous writers and intellectualsgrappled with anxiety— and hey, you could be one of them!The FixThink aboutwhich cues cause you to ruminate. Do particular situations or encounters tend to send your thoughts spinning out of control? Use that high verbal intelligence to keep a diary observing your own thoughts and behavior, in order to understand what sets you off. And rather than using those verbal skills solely for coping with worry, why not try using them in a creative project?
You Ruminate
Your thoughts spin around and around the same few topics, and you can’t seem to get out of their grasp. This is rumination, a thought pattern wherein several thoughts constantly repeat themselves. Rumination can make people who suffer it feel trapped in their own minds. Yet it’s also a sign of depth of thought, and when channeled correctly it can be a helpful quality.
Surprising Benefit of Rumination
You have high intelligence! Several studies have shown that people with anxietytend to bemoreintelligentthan people without. Rumination may be frustrating to experience, but it’s also correlated withhigh verbal intelligence. In fact, lots of famous writers and intellectualsgrappled with anxiety— and hey, you could be one of them!
Think aboutwhich cues cause you to ruminate. Do particular situations or encounters tend to send your thoughts spinning out of control? Use that high verbal intelligence to keep a diary observing your own thoughts and behavior, in order to understand what sets you off. And rather than using those verbal skills solely for coping with worry, why not try using them in a creative project?
Focus on the PositiveIn the moments when fear keeps you from entering a social gathering, or when an obsessive thought won’t leave your head, we know it doesn’t feel like there are any upsides to anxiety. However, everyone deserves to live their daily lives without suffering constant stress.Criticizing yourself for your anxiety only makes things worse. So next time you begin berating yourself for being anxious, remember that having anxiety doesn’t make you lesser than anyone else — in fact, quite the opposite. It means you’re intelligent, conscientious, detail-oriented, and you respond well to crisis. By recognizing the good things your anxiety reveals about you, andreaching out to a therapist to help change the rest of what holds you back, you’ll be increasingly able to embrace the moment—and yourself.
Focus on the Positive
In the moments when fear keeps you from entering a social gathering, or when an obsessive thought won’t leave your head, we know it doesn’t feel like there are any upsides to anxiety. However, everyone deserves to live their daily lives without suffering constant stress.
Criticizing yourself for your anxiety only makes things worse. So next time you begin berating yourself for being anxious, remember that having anxiety doesn’t make you lesser than anyone else — in fact, quite the opposite. It means you’re intelligent, conscientious, detail-oriented, and you respond well to crisis. By recognizing the good things your anxiety reveals about you, andreaching out to a therapist to help change the rest of what holds you back, you’ll be increasingly able to embrace the moment—and yourself.
Reina GattusoReina Gattuso writes about food and agriculture, gender and sexuality, and mental health. Her writing has appeared in Time, The Washington Post, and Atlas Obscura, and her work on sexuality and consent has been cited in Duke Law Journal and other academic publications. She was a 2015-2016 Fulbright fellow in New Delhi, India.
Reina Gattuso writes about food and agriculture, gender and sexuality, and mental health. Her writing has appeared in Time, The Washington Post, and Atlas Obscura, and her work on sexuality and consent has been cited in Duke Law Journal and other academic publications. She was a 2015-2016 Fulbright fellow in New Delhi, India.
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