Nobody wants a relationship that consists of endless drama and fighting, but an emotionless and monotonous relationship doesn’t sound much better. Many people wonder whether their relationship has enough passion and excitement. So how can you tell if your relationship is balanced or boring?
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What Makes a Relationship “Balanced?”
A balanced relationship is one where there is no daily conflict. When there are conflicts, they are worked through without threats, ultimatums, or wounding insults. Partners enjoy being together, but also have interests and friends outside the relationship.Jealousyis not very frequent, as partners trust one another and prioritize their commitment.
How Dysfunction Plays into our View Of Relationships
One major issue to explore is whether you are used to being indysfunctional relationships, or you grew up witnessing one between your parents. When people are used to being in, or observing, volatile and unpredictable relationships, it changes their idea of what amount of drama is “normal” for a relationship.
If you grew up seeing daily screaming and fighting, you may know that you want a healthier relationship. But you still may subconsciously expect that any romantic relationship will involve a certain level of arguing, jealousy, and storming out of the house in a rage. If you grew up with a parent with substance use or personality disorder issues, this is amplified.
Understanding Change in a Relationship Over Time
It is also important to think about how your feelings may have changed over the course of your relationship. The initial stages of a relationship are called the honeymoon stage because everything feels perfect and exciting. Both people generally feel that they have finally found the person that they have been looking for, the person who is ideally suited to them.
How to Push Through “Boredom”
If your feelings of boredom have been there since the inception of the relationship, a stage at which most people feel extremely positive and excited, this would be a sign that perhaps you and your partner are notcompatible.
Finding Middle Ground
Nobody wants to settle for an uninspiring relationship, but there has to be a healthy middle ground. If you recognize aspects of yourself and your relationship in this article, share it with your partner and discuss! Often, when both partners can discuss an issue openly, even boredom, they can work together to tackle the issue, and to reconnect.Couple’s counselingcan be a terrific, safe place to discuss these tricky subjects.
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