I Tried It: Vagus Nerve Exercises

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This is a story about intimate partner violence. Some details in this piece may be disturbing to readers, especially those who have experienced domestic abuse. If reading this brings up uncomfortable feelings for you about past abuse, or if you are currently in an abusive relationship, you can speak confidentially with trained advocates for free at theNational Domestic Violence Hotlineat1-800-799-7233.

I Tried It is a series that features accounts of real experiences with innovative new treatments, techniques, or practices that are making waves in the mental health world. Each installment in the series is unique to the writer’s experience and may not be representative of the experiences or views of others.

When I pitched an article a few months ago about the concept ofpost-traumatic relationship syndrome(PTRS), I had a sinking feeling I’d be using my piece as a reference point for my own life soon thereafter. That’s because my primary relationship had recently moved into a place that seemed potentially untenable for both of us and historically, my partner of many years had a tendency to lose their temper with me in stressful situations.

I knew in my gut that no matter how calmly and/or rationally I behaved, chances were things would go badly. As someone who has experienced a significant amount of abuse in her past, I’d be left in a traumatized state that would be a difficult hole to crawl out of.

The breakup went even worse than I feared. In their anger, my ex had a long fit of rage at me. I was called a litany of names, told that being acisgay woman was “pathetic” and “disgusting,” and was informed that they never wanted to see or speak to me again. Four and a half years of my lifewere down the drain in an hour, and afterward, I was a disaster.

Four and a half years of my life were down the drain in an hour, and afterward, I was a disaster.

With barely a moment of searching, I found avideo for a set of ear massagesthat purported to stimulate the vagus nerve.It took scarcely 15 minutes to complete and seemed far too subtle to be potentially impactful (most studies of auricular vagus nerve stimulation involves stimulation via electrodes). At the end of the massage series, I felt queasy. That feeling remained for about an hour while I sat on the couch and breathed through it.

Suddenly, the queasiness abated, and I felt as if I had dropped back into my body. Out of the blue, I thought, “I’m fine. I’m going to be fine. I have survived this, just like I have survived everything else in my life, and none of it has broken me. I am stronger than this.”

Out of the blue, I thought, ‘I’m fine. I’m going to be fine. I have survived this, just like I have survived everything else in my life, and none of it has broken me. I am stronger than this.’

I got up off the couch a new person. It was a Sunday, and I decided to dedicate the day to taking care of myself in whatever way felt best. That night I slept for about five hours, which was better than any day prior, and the next morning I headed to my computer eagerly. I submitted the two articles due that day before noon and worked on others with deadlines later that week.

My close friends had all been doing an excellent job of checking in on me regularly, and all were equally taken aback that Monday when they asked how I was doing. “So much better!” I replied. “I did this vagus nerve ear massage thing, and it somehow FIXED my nervous system. I’m going to be OK!” I told them.

By Friday, I could count to 100 under icy water, and on Saturday, I made my first ice bath in my tub. I end each shower and bath on that cold note to allow my body to perform the reparative process of reheating itself. The fact that I, someone whose heat is set to 74, am able to do this is a testament to how amazing it makes you feel.

It’s been about a month and a half since I began cold plunging, and my record for a cold shower now is a count of 270, which translates to about four minutes, considering I’m not counting slowly. Ice baths top out at three minutes or so, and I do them once a week. Every few days, I add in one of the ear massages. Not only did vagus nerve exercises save me from my PTRS, I feel the best I ever have.

When researching ice baths, the attribute that surprised me the most was that people said it made them feel invincible. Stress resilience is a purported effect of them, but the idea of urging the world to “come at me, bro” is pretty much the opposite of my quiet and introverted personality. And yet, that’s exactly how cold plunging makes me feel. It gives me the understanding that whatever happens to me in life, I’ll be OK. I feel ready and excited about it all.

Stress resilience is a purported effect of them, but the idea of urging the world to ‘come at me, bro’ is pretty much the opposite of my quiet and introverted personality.

I have worked so, so hard to be someone who does not attract abusers. While this past relationship involved someone occasionally losing their temper with me, it was still a win in comparison to my history. I’ve put in nearly five years of time withsomatic therapy, and I believe I’m as recovered as I’m going to get in this life.

Vagus nerve exercises give me the ability to calm my nervous system on a deeper level, and in a faster way, than anything else I’ve found—and you can bet that if it’s out there and can potentially heal you on a deep level, I’ve tried it.

If you’d told me I’d be doing this well, and feeling this fabulous, not even a couple of months after a traumatic breakup, I’d have told you that you were dreaming. Yet here I am, the happiest and the most relaxed version of myself I’ve known. Being someone who gets to learn and tell others about ways to enhance our mental health makes me feel like the luckiest person around.

2 SourcesVerywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Kaniusas E, Kampusch S, Tittgemeyer M, Panetsos F, Gines RF, Papa M, et al.Current directions in the auricular vagus nerve stimulation i – a physiological perspective.Front Neurosci. 2019 Aug 9;13:854.Jungmann M, Vencatachellum S, Van Ryckeghem D, Vögele C.Effects of cold stimulation on cardiac-vagal activation in healthy participants: randomized controlled trial.JMIR Form Res. 2018 Oct 9;2(2):e10257.

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Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Kaniusas E, Kampusch S, Tittgemeyer M, Panetsos F, Gines RF, Papa M, et al.Current directions in the auricular vagus nerve stimulation i – a physiological perspective.Front Neurosci. 2019 Aug 9;13:854.Jungmann M, Vencatachellum S, Van Ryckeghem D, Vögele C.Effects of cold stimulation on cardiac-vagal activation in healthy participants: randomized controlled trial.JMIR Form Res. 2018 Oct 9;2(2):e10257.

Kaniusas E, Kampusch S, Tittgemeyer M, Panetsos F, Gines RF, Papa M, et al.Current directions in the auricular vagus nerve stimulation i – a physiological perspective.Front Neurosci. 2019 Aug 9;13:854.Jungmann M, Vencatachellum S, Van Ryckeghem D, Vögele C.Effects of cold stimulation on cardiac-vagal activation in healthy participants: randomized controlled trial.JMIR Form Res. 2018 Oct 9;2(2):e10257.

Jungmann M, Vencatachellum S, Van Ryckeghem D, Vögele C.Effects of cold stimulation on cardiac-vagal activation in healthy participants: randomized controlled trial.JMIR Form Res. 2018 Oct 9;2(2):e10257.

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