'I Hate My Body': What to Do If You Feel This Way

Table of ContentsView AllTable of ContentsSigns of Negative Body ImageWhat Causes You to Hate Your BodyEffects of Hating Your BodyHow to Love Your BodyTreatment for Body Image Issues

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Signs of Negative Body Image

What Causes You to Hate Your Body

Effects of Hating Your Body

How to Love Your Body

Treatment for Body Image Issues

Having a body is no easy task. Just like our minds, our bodies are pretty inescapable. And while having a body alone can be a tough thing, loving your body can sometimes be even more difficult. Whether because your body doesn’t work perfectly or you don’t like its shape or size, it’s common to feel that you don’t fully love your body. These feelings are normal and tend to come and go throughout life.

There comes a point, though, when you may be focusing too much on hating your body. It can impact the rest of your life, ruin your relationship with yourself, and even potentially lead to eating disorders or illness.

At a GlanceHating your body hurts your mental health, but there are things you can do to understand why it’s happening, recognize the negative effects, and take steps to better appreciate your physical body. Let’s look at how you can tell if your complicated feelings about your body are affecting your mental health, and what you can do about it if so.

At a Glance

Hating your body hurts your mental health, but there are things you can do to understand why it’s happening, recognize the negative effects, and take steps to better appreciate your physical body. Let’s look at how you can tell if your complicated feelings about your body are affecting your mental health, and what you can do about it if so.

Whether you feel like you hate your body or have complex feelings about certain aspects of your physical shape, size, or appearance, there are some signs that you might have poor body image:

Many of us might recognize that we engage in some of these behaviors from time to time. Enjoying putting on makeup, wearing flattering clothing, and looking at yourself in the mirror are not necessarily signs of poor body image.

The difference lies in the degree and severity of these behaviors. A person with a body image problem may engage in these behaviors to the point that it interferes with their ability to function and maintain relationships.

Negative body image can stem from a variety of sources, and often it is a combination of influences that can cause you to feel like you dislike or hate your body. How you feel about yourself and your appearance starts to form in early childhood and your experiences and perceptions can impact your relationship with your physical body.

Research suggests that 40% to 50% of kids between the ages of six and 12 report being unhappy with some aspect of their body’s size or shape.

Some factors that might contribute to poor body image can include:

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Mental Health Effects of Hating Your Body

The toll of disliking your body can show up in many different ways in your life. Research suggests that feeling dissatisfied with your body can lead to a range of negative mental health outcomes. Problems linked to poor body image include:

These are a few ways you can tell if your dislike of your body is negatively impacting your mental and emotional wellness.

Your Stress Is a Time Eater

Are you spending so much time thinking about how you hate your body that it interferes with the amount of time you have in general? This is a major sign that your hatred for your body is taking a toll on your mental health.

Even if it doesn’t feel like you’re spending all your time thinking negatively about your body, that doesn’t mean it isn’t affecting you.

Take a pause and think about how much time you spend actively feeling and thinking badly about your body, and about how often your body is on your mind.

Whether it’s a few minutes or a few hours a day, the result is undue stress that your thoughts are causing.

You Experience Dysphoria

Dysphoriais a state of feeling uneasy or unhappy. This could be related to anything, including financial situation, personal life, work life, as well as our bodies orgender.

Dysphoric feelings about your body could manifest as simple as feeling like your body just isn’t OK, or as complexly as taking physical action like undereating in hopes of changing your body.

Dysphoria can come and go, and doesn’t necessarily occur all of the time. If your feelings about your body ever reach the point whereyou feel hopeless, and like the discomfort of being in your body will never end, you have experienced dysphoria.

You Experience Dysmorphia

The word dysmorphia looks somewhat similar to dysphoria, but they are entirely different things.

While dysphoria is a feeling of deep uneasiness,body dysmorphiais the act of obsessively feeling that your body is flawed.

Often, people who experience body dysmorphia see their own bodies differently than other people see them. You may think that a part of you is disfigured when it isn’t, or that your body is larger than others' even if it’s the same size.

Sometimes people with body dysmorphia experience eating disorders, but that isn’t always the case. Dysmorphia is centered around the inability to let go of the idea that your body, whether a part of it or all of it, is wrong and just not acceptable.

While you don’t have to always love your body, it is important to accept it.

You Feel Triggered By Body Discussion

This sign that your hatred of your body is negatively affecting your mental health is tricky, because in our society people say a lot of inappropriate things about other people’s bodies. In general, it’s best to simply never comment on another person’s body unless they invite you to. If you get upset when people talk about your body, that doesn’t mean you hate your body.

However, if someone discussing your body makes you upset in a way that’s hard to let go of, such as if it ruins your day or your week, or if it makes you act in a reactionary, negative way towards the commenter, your dislike of your body may be serious enough to be affecting your emotional wellness.

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How to Develop Love for Your Body

Feeling stuck and hopeless in your body is common, and it doesn’t have to be where your story ends. There are many things that you can do to begin the journey of loving, or at least appreciating and accepting, your body.

It’s important to have positive feelings about our bodies because having only negative feelings about a topic we can’t get rid of makes us feel stressed and upset, and that isn’t a productive way to go through life.

Moving into a space of loving, or at least accepting, your body helps you to have less stress in your life at large. It can help you be a happier person, too.

Make a List Of What Your Body Can Do

Sometimes we get so caught up in feeling like our bodies aren’t good enough, we completely forget about all the amazing things our bodies can do. When you’re in a place of feeling hatred for your body, it can be very helpful to detail out for yourself all the ways that your body is succeeding. This can help you feel proud of your body, and realize that it’s doing the best it can.

Some questions to ask yourself to get started include:

There are many more questions you can ask yourself, but those are some incredibly straightforward ones to begin this journey. The more we can appreciate what our bodies do for us, the easier it becomes to accept them as they are.

Practice Body Neutrality

Body neutralityis the radical notion of accepting your body and appreciating it for what it can do, regardless of how it looks or how it falls short in function. Practicing it can involve everything from eating more intuitively to not punishing yourself with exercise.

Practicing body neutrality hasnumerous mental health benefits. It can lead to having more empathy and less judgment towards others, and to lower stress levels.

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Do Kind Things for Your Body

With all our bodies do for us, it’s kind of strange how little we do purely for them. Our bodies are busy taking us places and functioning, and we often don’t do anything to thank them.

Create Boundaries Around Body Discussions

It might mean telling them that you don’t want your looks commented on. Or, it could be sending them information about how to discuss bodies in non-harmful ways.

Whatever you choose, it’s an empowering task that gives you more autonomy with your body.

Practice Stress Relieving Activities

Minimizing stress is one of the best things we can do for our mental wellness. It may not be possible to reduce or eliminate stress, but we can choose how we deal with it.Taking on a stress relieving activity, whether breathing exercises or taking a walk, is good for all aspects of ourselves.

Even just a few short minutes can have an effect on you for hours afterwards. Practicing stress relieving activities can also help you to think more rationally about your body, and to operate from a less upset mental space.

If body image issues are contributing to distress, functional impairments, or mental health symptoms, consider talking to your doctor or a mental health professional. It can be hard to shift to a more positive mindset about your body, but there are treatments that can help.

Therapy

Cognitive-behavioral therapyfor body image and self-care (CBT-BISC) is atype of therapythat can be particularly helpful for fighting those negative thought patterns that make you feel so bad about yourself. Working with a therapist, you’ll learn how to spot these thoughts and replace them with kinder and more realistic thinking.

Medication

Your doctor may also suggest medication to help combat symptoms of anxiety or depression that might accompany body image issues.Selective-serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs)such asProzac (fluoxetine),Lexapro (escitalopram), andZoloft (sertraline)are sometimes prescribed off-label in the treatment of body dysmorphic disorder.

Keep in Mind

Body image is complex, and most people feel like there are things they might change about their bodies if they could. However, excessive body hatred and poor body image can have serious effects on your mental well-being.

If you are struggling to love your body, taking steps to change your negative thoughts, cultivating a more body-neutral approach, and buildinggratitudefor the things you appreciate about your body can help. If you are still struggling, reach out to a doctor or mental health professional for more advice on treatments that can help you feel better about the body you live in.

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Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Kling J, Kwakkenbos L, Diedrichs PC, et al.Systematic review of body image measures.Body Image. 2019;30:170-211. doi:10.1016/j.bodyim.2019.06.006King ICC.Body image in paediatric burns: A review.Burns Trauma. 2018;6:12. doi:10.1186/s41038-018-0114-3Ganesan S, Ravishankar SL, Ramalingam S.Are body image issues affecting our adolescents? A cross-sectional study among college going adolescent girls.Indian J Community Med. 2018;43(Suppl 1):S42-S46. doi:10.4103/ijcm.IJCM_62_18Yazdani N PhD Candidate, Hosseini SV MD, Amini M MD, Sobhani Z PhD, Sharif F PhD, Khazraei H PhD.Relationship between body image and psychological well-being in patients with morbid obesity.Int J Community Based Nurs Midwifery. 2018;6(2):175-184.Klimek P, Wilhelm S, Safren SA, Blashill AJ.Cognitive behavioral therapy for body image and self-care (CBT-BISC) among sexual minority men living with HIV: Skills-based treatment mediators.Cognit Ther Res. 2020;44(1):208-215. doi:10.1007/s10608-019-10035-w

Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.

Kling J, Kwakkenbos L, Diedrichs PC, et al.Systematic review of body image measures.Body Image. 2019;30:170-211. doi:10.1016/j.bodyim.2019.06.006King ICC.Body image in paediatric burns: A review.Burns Trauma. 2018;6:12. doi:10.1186/s41038-018-0114-3Ganesan S, Ravishankar SL, Ramalingam S.Are body image issues affecting our adolescents? A cross-sectional study among college going adolescent girls.Indian J Community Med. 2018;43(Suppl 1):S42-S46. doi:10.4103/ijcm.IJCM_62_18Yazdani N PhD Candidate, Hosseini SV MD, Amini M MD, Sobhani Z PhD, Sharif F PhD, Khazraei H PhD.Relationship between body image and psychological well-being in patients with morbid obesity.Int J Community Based Nurs Midwifery. 2018;6(2):175-184.Klimek P, Wilhelm S, Safren SA, Blashill AJ.Cognitive behavioral therapy for body image and self-care (CBT-BISC) among sexual minority men living with HIV: Skills-based treatment mediators.Cognit Ther Res. 2020;44(1):208-215. doi:10.1007/s10608-019-10035-w

Kling J, Kwakkenbos L, Diedrichs PC, et al.Systematic review of body image measures.Body Image. 2019;30:170-211. doi:10.1016/j.bodyim.2019.06.006

King ICC.Body image in paediatric burns: A review.Burns Trauma. 2018;6:12. doi:10.1186/s41038-018-0114-3

Ganesan S, Ravishankar SL, Ramalingam S.Are body image issues affecting our adolescents? A cross-sectional study among college going adolescent girls.Indian J Community Med. 2018;43(Suppl 1):S42-S46. doi:10.4103/ijcm.IJCM_62_18

Yazdani N PhD Candidate, Hosseini SV MD, Amini M MD, Sobhani Z PhD, Sharif F PhD, Khazraei H PhD.Relationship between body image and psychological well-being in patients with morbid obesity.Int J Community Based Nurs Midwifery. 2018;6(2):175-184.

Klimek P, Wilhelm S, Safren SA, Blashill AJ.Cognitive behavioral therapy for body image and self-care (CBT-BISC) among sexual minority men living with HIV: Skills-based treatment mediators.Cognit Ther Res. 2020;44(1):208-215. doi:10.1007/s10608-019-10035-w

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