Exposure therapy, a widely used psychological intervention, involves facing and gradually approaching the situations, places, or activities that trigger your anxiety. This type of therapy can be used for people of all ages, from children to older adults.
Its efficacy intreating social anxietyis rooted in the idea of systematically confronting fears, to help you create resilience, and overall reprogram any negative associations you have with your triggers.
Social anxiety can lead to isolation, missed opportunities, and reduced quality of life. By facing fears in a controlled environment, people can learn that their anxious thoughts are often exaggerated and that they can handle social situations, ultimately improving their well-being and ability to engage in life more fully.
While you can engage in exposure therapy with a therapist, usually as part of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), it is possible to get some effective results from trying out exposure therapy techniques on your own.
Why avoidance can be a problem for social anxiety
Avoidance is a common coping mechanism for those with social anxiety, but it can end up intensifying anxiety in the long run.
While avoiding social situations may provide temporary relief, it reinforces the fear and can lead to increased scanning for danger. So, the more you avoid, the less opportunity you have to learn that social situations are not as threatening or scary as your mind and fear tell you.
Therefore, this avoidance can lead to a cycle of increasing isolation, narrowing of your comfort zone, losing your self-confidence, and further elevating anxiety levels as a consequence.
Common social anxiety fears:
Many fears can stem from social anxiety. These can include but are not limited to fear of:
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Engaging in exposure therapy for social anxiety is not only possible but also empowering when done independently.
Each step is designed to gently challenge your comfort zone, foster resilience, and provide a pathway to a more fulfilling social life.
Identify Specific Social Fears
Identifying specific social fears involves pinpointing the exact situations or scenarios that trigger your anxiety. It is about recognizing the specific thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations that come up when you are in social situations. By identifying these fears, you can clarify what areas of social interactions cause the most distress.
This awareness is important for developing targeted exposure exercises and addressing underlying cognitive distortions. Identifying such specific social fears will empower you to confront them directly, paving the way for effectivecoping strategiesand eventual mastery over social anxiety.
For instance, if attending parties triggers anxiety, identify the underlying thoughts like, ‘I might embarrass myself’ or ‘Nobody will want to talk to me.’
Actionable steps:
Try completing our mindmap on identifying social fears:
Create a Hierarchy
Creating a hierarchy involves ranking social situations from least to most anxiety-provoking. This approach allows you to systematically tackle your fears, starting with less scary situations and gradually working up to more challenging ones.
Breaking down social situations into smaller, manageable steps will help you prevent overwhelm and allow for a structured approach to exposure therapy. By systematically facing your fears in a controlled manner, you can desensitize yourself to anxiety triggers and build confidence in social settings!
Try completing our exposure hierarchy worksheet:
Set Realistic Goals
Setting realistic goals means choosing small, achievable steps to work on instead of overwhelming yourself with big challenges. This approach helps break down intimidating situations into manageable tasks, making progress more attainable.
This is all about acknowledging where you are now and setting goals that push you slightly out of your comfort zone without overwhelming you. This helps to build momentum and keeps you motivated on your journey to overcoming social anxiety.
Try completing our SMART goals worksheet:
Reduce Safety Behaviors
Safety behaviors in social anxiety are actions that prevent feared outcomes in social situations, such as avoiding eye contact or rehearsing sentences before speaking.
Safety behaviors can help alleviate social anxiety in the short term but can maintain and exacerbate it in the long run for several reasons:
Dropping safety behaviors allows individuals to fully engage in social situations and test their negative predictions.
Over time, this can lead toincreased social confidenceas people learn they can handle social interactions without relying on safety aids. Reducing safety behaviors is an important target in cognitive-behavioral therapy for social anxiety.
For instance, someone with social anxiety may typically avoid eye contact during conversations as a safety behavior to reduce uncomfortable emotions.
By consciously making an effort to maintain eye contact during interactions, they can gradually reduce their reliance on this safety behavior and become more at ease during social interactions.
Try completing our worksheet for reducing safety behaviors:
Visualization Techniques
Visualization techniques mean imagining positive outcomes in social situations to feel less anxious and more confident. It is like mentally practicing how things can go well, which can help calm nerves and build self-belief.
By picturing yourself handling social challenges successfully and repeating these mental rehearsals, you can gradually feel more comfortable in real-life situations. Incorporating this alongside other exposure therapy techniques can help you gradually overcome social anxiety and feel more confident in social situations.
It may also be helpful to visualize the worst possible scenario e.g., I will trip over and stumble over my words. Even if this happens, it can help you realize that you still survived this situation and overcome it. This will then boost your confidence when you actually come to such a situation.
Implement Exposure Exercises (Confronting the things you avoid)
Implementing exposure exercises involves gradually exposing yourself to feared social situations in a controlled manner. Start with situations that provoke mild anxiety and gradually work your way up to more challenging scenarios.
As you become more comfortable, you can gradually increase the complexity and intensity of the exposure exercises. Consistent practice is key to desensitizing yourself to anxiety-provoking situations and building confidence over time.
By systematically confronting your fears, you can retrain your brain’s response to social stimuli and reduce the intensity of anxious reactions!
Try completing our exposure experiments worksheet:
Record and Evaluate Progress
Recording and evaluating progress involves keeping track of your exposure exercises, reflecting on your exposure experiences so far, and monitoring any changes in your anxiety levels over time.
Set aside regular time to review your progress log and consider how your anxiety levels have fluctuated throughout your exposure journey. Pay attention to any patterns or trends that emerge, and reflect on the strategies and techniques that have been most effective for you. At this stage, you can consider adjusting your approach if needed.
Keeping these records serves as a tangible reminder of your accomplishments and can boost motivation during moments of doubt or setbacks.
Additionally, tracking your progress and rating your anxieties or worries before vs after provides valuable insight into your personal growth and can help you recognize the effectiveness of your efforts in overcoming social anxiety.
Dealing with setbacks
Remaining flexible is crucial as you navigate your journey of overcoming social anxiety. Understand that progress may not always be linear, and there will be ups and downs along the way.
Stay open to adjusting your approach and trying new strategies as needed. If a particular exposure exercise feels too overwhelming, do not hesitate to scale it back or try a different approach.
Additionally, flexibility means being kind and patient with yourself when setbacks occur. Instead of viewing them as failures, try to see them as opportunities for learning and growth.
By remaining flexible and adaptable, you can better navigate the challenges of social anxiety and continue moving forward on your path to recovery.
For example, if the original plan was to join a networking event but that felt too overwhelming, you can switch to joining an online discussion forum. This will allow you to still socialize while doing it at a comfortable pace.
Try completing out worksheet on challenging unhelpful thoughts:
Celebrate Achievements
Celebrating your achievement of reducing avoidance and safety behaviors is an essential part of your journey toward overcoming social anxiety.
Take time to acknowledge and celebrate every small victory, whether it is successfully initiating a conversation with a stranger or attending a social event without feeling overwhelmed.
Celebrating achievements can help reinforce positive behaviors and boost your confidence, making it easier to continue facing your fears.
Find meaningful ways to reward yourself for your progress, whether it is treating yourself to something special, sharing your accomplishments with a supportive friend or loved one, or simply taking a moment to appreciate how far you’ve come.
Remember that every step forward, no matter how small, is worth celebrating and deserving of recognition. By celebrating your achievements along the way, you can stay motivated and inspired to continue working towards your goals.
Conclusion
In conclusion, overcoming social anxiety through exposure therapy is a journey that requires patience, persistence, and self-compassion. By gradually facing your fears, setting realistic goals, and tracking your progress, you can build confidence and reclaim control over your social life.
Remember to celebrate even the smallest achievements and remain flexible in your approach. Seek support from trusted friends, family members, or mental health professionals when needed. With dedication and perseverance, you can overcome social anxiety and live a more fulfilling and connected life. You got this!
Try completing all of our exposure therapy for social anxiety worksheets below:
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Olivia Guy-Evans, MSc
BSc (Hons) Psychology, MSc Psychology of Education
Olivia Guy-Evans is a writer and associate editor for Simply Psychology. She has previously worked in healthcare and educational sectors.
Saul McLeod, PhD
BSc (Hons) Psychology, MRes, PhD, University of Manchester
Saul McLeod, PhD., is a qualified psychology teacher with over 18 years of experience in further and higher education. He has been published in peer-reviewed journals, including the Journal of Clinical Psychology.
Ioanna StavrakiCommunity Wellbeing Professional, EducatorBSc (Hons) Psychology, MSc, Neuropsychology, MBPsSIoanna Stavraki is a healthcare professional leading NHS Berkshire’s Wellbeing Network Team and serving as a Teaching Assistant at The University of Malawi for the “Organisation Psychology” MSc course. With previous experience at Frontiers' “Computational Neuroscience” journal and startup “Advances in Clinical Medical Research,” she contributes significantly to neuroscience and psychology research. Early career experience with Alzheimer’s patients and published works, including an upcoming IET book chapter, underscore her dedication to advancing healthcare and neuroscience understanding.
Ioanna StavrakiCommunity Wellbeing Professional, EducatorBSc (Hons) Psychology, MSc, Neuropsychology, MBPsS
Ioanna Stavraki
Community Wellbeing Professional, Educator
BSc (Hons) Psychology, MSc, Neuropsychology, MBPsS
Ioanna Stavraki is a healthcare professional leading NHS Berkshire’s Wellbeing Network Team and serving as a Teaching Assistant at The University of Malawi for the “Organisation Psychology” MSc course. With previous experience at Frontiers' “Computational Neuroscience” journal and startup “Advances in Clinical Medical Research,” she contributes significantly to neuroscience and psychology research. Early career experience with Alzheimer’s patients and published works, including an upcoming IET book chapter, underscore her dedication to advancing healthcare and neuroscience understanding.
