Table of ContentsView AllTable of ContentsHow Routines Can Benefit Your RelationshipRoutines That Can Boost Your Quality TimeRoutines to Better Your CommunicationRoutines to Improve Your IntimacyIs There Such a Thing as Having Too Much Routine?What to Do If You’re Bored of the Routine
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Table of Contents
How Routines Can Benefit Your Relationship
Routines That Can Boost Your Quality Time
Routines to Better Your Communication
Routines to Improve Your Intimacy
Is There Such a Thing as Having Too Much Routine?
What to Do If You’re Bored of the Routine
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When you startdatingsomeone, things are often new and exciting. Every interaction is thrilling because it’s something you’ve never done before. Then slowly, over time, you align your schedules, designate date night, and divide the chores. You’ve settled into a comfortable routine.
The idea of having a routine in your relationship can sound boring. However, developing a routine doesn’t mean that complacency has arrived and your relationship is doomed.
Routines provide grounding, structure, consistency, and stability in relationships, saysSabrina Romanoff, PsyD, a clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships.
Besides, having a fixed routine can give you and your partner something to look forward to. Otherwise, if you don’t make it a point to scheduledatesand other routines with your partner, you may not be able to spend as much time together as you’d like. “Life’s obligations may keep a couple waiting for spontaneity that never happens or isn’t consistent or sufficient to nurture the relationship,” saysClaudia de Llano, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of “The Seven Destinies of Love.”
In this article, we explore how routines can benefit your relationship and suggest some elements you can add to your routine to improve your relationship. We also discuss whether there is such a thing as too much routine in a relationship and what you should do if you’re getting bored with your routine.
These are some of the ways routines can benefit your relationship:
Routines tend to signify how partners are melding and integrating their lives. They provide checkpoints to harmonize with each other and be in alignment.—SABRINA ROMANOFF, PSYD
Routines tend to signify how partners are melding and integrating their lives. They provide checkpoints to harmonize with each other and be in alignment.
—SABRINA ROMANOFF, PSYD
These are some elements you can add to your daily routine, to improve your quality time with your partner:
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Routines to Better Your Communication With Your Partner
These are some elements you can add to your daily routine, to improve your communication with your partner:
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Routines to Improve Intimacy
These are some elements you can add to your routine, to create moreintimacywith your partner:
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Yes, having too much routine can also have its downsides, such as:
Rigidity rarely has a positive outcome in relationships. We must learn to be flexible with life.—CLAUDIA DE LLANO, LMFT
Rigidity rarely has a positive outcome in relationships. We must learn to be flexible with life.
—CLAUDIA DE LLANO, LMFT
How to Get out of a Rut
The experts share some steps you can take if you’re bored of the routine:
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2 SourcesVerywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Karimi R, Bakhtiyari M, Masjedi Arani A.Protective factors of marital stability in long-term marriage globally: a systematic review.Epidemiol Health. 2019;41:e2019023. doi:10.4178/epih.e2019023Mohideen F, Heintzelman SJ.Routines and meaning in life: does activity content or context matter?Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2022;1461672221085797. doi:10.1177/01461672221085797
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Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Karimi R, Bakhtiyari M, Masjedi Arani A.Protective factors of marital stability in long-term marriage globally: a systematic review.Epidemiol Health. 2019;41:e2019023. doi:10.4178/epih.e2019023Mohideen F, Heintzelman SJ.Routines and meaning in life: does activity content or context matter?Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2022;1461672221085797. doi:10.1177/01461672221085797
Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.
Karimi R, Bakhtiyari M, Masjedi Arani A.Protective factors of marital stability in long-term marriage globally: a systematic review.Epidemiol Health. 2019;41:e2019023. doi:10.4178/epih.e2019023Mohideen F, Heintzelman SJ.Routines and meaning in life: does activity content or context matter?Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2022;1461672221085797. doi:10.1177/01461672221085797
Karimi R, Bakhtiyari M, Masjedi Arani A.Protective factors of marital stability in long-term marriage globally: a systematic review.Epidemiol Health. 2019;41:e2019023. doi:10.4178/epih.e2019023
Mohideen F, Heintzelman SJ.Routines and meaning in life: does activity content or context matter?Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2022;1461672221085797. doi:10.1177/01461672221085797
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