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The Verywell Mind Podcast’s“Friday Fix” is a short episode that features a quick, actionable tip or exercise to help you manage a specific mental health issue or concern.

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Reviews and ratings are a great way to encourage other people to listen and help them prioritize their mental health too.

Welcome toThe Verywell Mind Podcast.I’m Amy Morin, LCSW. I’m also a psychotherapist and a best-selling author of five books on mental strength.

My newest book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do Workbook is now on sale. It’s filled with mental strength-building strategies, quizzes, and reflection questions that can help you become the strongest version of yourself.

You’re listening to the Friday Fix. Every Friday, I share a quick mental strength strategy that can help fix the thoughts, feelings, and actions that can hold you back in life.

And the fun part is we record the show from a sailboat in the Florida Keys.

Now let’s dive into today’s episode.

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You’ve heard people talk about the importance of setting boundaries. Hopefully, you have set some for yourself. But, how do you know if you need more boundaries?

You don’t want to have rigid boundaries. If you set tons of rules about how other people must treat you, you’re going to alienate or hurt people if your expectations are unreasonable.

But if you don’t have enough boundaries or your boundaries are too relaxed, you’ll let other people hurt you. That’s not to say the people around you will hurt you on purpose, but they might do things that offend you, hurt your feelings, or make your life more difficult without ever knowing the impact it has on you.

Boundaries can include anything from telling someone you don’t have time to talk right now to letting someone know you aren’t going to lend them money. At first boundaries feel uncomfortable. You might worry that you’ve hurt someone’s feelings or that they’ll be upset with you.

I did an Instagram poll to find out how many of you struggle with boundaries. And just over 85% of you said that you have a hard time setting boundaries at least some of the time.

There may be times in your life when you have better boundaries than others. There may also be areas of your life where you have better boundaries. It might be easy to set boundaries in your personal life but not in your professional life. Or maybe you set great boundaries with your friends but struggle to set good boundaries when you start a new romantic relationship.

Not having good enough boundaries feels awful. You might not be able to put your finger on what’s off in your life–at least not at first. But you’ll likely feel overwhelmed or you’ll feel like things are spinning out of control or that everyone is taking advantage of your kindness.

Here are 10 telltale signs that you need to establish better boundaries in your life:

So those are 10 signs you might need to establish some better boundaries: you rarely say no, you take on more tasks than you can handle, you apologize for things that aren’t your fault, you stoop to someone else’s level, you complain about someone often, you lose your temper, you blame other people for making you feel a certain way, you feel powerless, you spend a lot of time dreading that you’re going to see someone, and you resort to unhealthy coping skills.

If those things sound a lot like you, listen to episode 54, how to set boundaries with therapist Nedra Tawwab.

Make sure to tune into the show on Monday. I’m talking to actress and author Ali Landry about how to reshape your life. She shares how a really small change to your habits can make a huge difference to your life.

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Make sure to subscribe to us on your favorite platform so you can get mental strength tips delivered to you every single week.

Do you want free access to my online course? It’s called 10 mental strength exercises that will help you reach your greatest potential. To get your free pass, all you have to do is leave us a review on Apple podcasts or Spotify. Then, send us a screenshot of your review. Our email address ispodcast@verywell.comWe’ll reply with your all access pass to the course.

Thank you for hanging out with me today and listening to the VW Mind podcast.

And as always, a big thank you to my show’s producer, who just watched the new John Wick movie with me, Nick Valentin.

If You Liked This Episode, You Might Also Like These Episodes:Friday Fix: 10 Ways to Say No and Stick to ItHow to Set Better Boundaries With Therapist Nedra Glover TawwabFriday Fix: 5 Signs You’re Giving Negative People Too Much Power Over Your Life

If You Liked This Episode, You Might Also Like These Episodes:

Friday Fix: 10 Ways to Say No and Stick to ItHow to Set Better Boundaries With Therapist Nedra Glover TawwabFriday Fix: 5 Signs You’re Giving Negative People Too Much Power Over Your Life

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