Attachment stylesare expectations people develop about relationships with others, and the first attachment is based on the relationship individuals had with their primary caregiver when they were infants.
What is my attachment style?
The following statements explore how you typically feel in emotionally intimate relationships, both past and present.
This does not necessarily need to be a romantic relationship, but should be an individual with whom you feel (or have felt) the most connection.
For example, it can be your primary “go-to” person, a friend, or even a work colleague on whom you rely if you’re sick, in trouble, want to celebrate with, or call with good news.
Rate each statement on a scale of 1 to 5:
1 = Strongly Disagree2 = Disagree3 = Neutral4 = Agree5 = Strongly Agree
NOTE: This attachment style quiz is meant as an educational tool, but is not meant as an official diagnosis or clinical assessment.
Secure attachment
Anxious attachment
Avoidant attachment
Fearful-avoidant attachment
Scoring
For each attachment style, sum your scores for the corresponding 5 questions:
The attachment style with the highest score is likely your predominant style. However, it’s common to have traits from multiple styles.
To get a more accurate assessment, you could:
Additional Notes
Remember, the goal is not to label yourself, but to understand your patterns and work towards healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
Reference
Fraley, R. C., Waller, N. G., & Brennan, K. A. (2000). An item-response theory analysis of self-reportmeasures of adult attachment.Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78, 350-365.
Olivia Guy-Evans, MSc
BSc (Hons) Psychology, MSc Psychology of Education
Olivia Guy-Evans is a writer and associate editor for Simply Psychology. She has previously worked in healthcare and educational sectors.
Saul McLeod, PhD
BSc (Hons) Psychology, MRes, PhD, University of Manchester
Saul McLeod, PhD., is a qualified psychology teacher with over 18 years of experience in further and higher education. He has been published in peer-reviewed journals, including the Journal of Clinical Psychology.
