8 Things to Do If You Feel Irritable

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Everyone feels irritable sometimes. But if you feel this way more often than not—such as if you find yourself repeatedly questioning, “Why am I so irritable all the time?"—it could cause bigger problems in your life.

Acknowledge Your Irritability

When someone asks why you’re so grumpy, it’s tempting to snap at them and say, “I’m not grumpy!” You might even blame everyone else for being too sensitive, too loud, or too annoying. Butdenying your irritabilitycan make you feel worse, even increasing your anxiety and contributing to emotional rigidity or detachment.

When you notice that you’re feeling annoyed with everything and everyone around you, acknowledge that you’re irritable. You don’t necessarily have to announce that you’re feeling irritable. You might just acknowledge it to yourself.

Naming your feelings can take a lot of the intensity out of them. You might even rate your irritability on a scale of 1 to 10. One study found that when individuals ranked their anger on a scale, their physiological symptoms declined and they felt calmer.

So take a minute tolabel your emotionswhen you’re feeling irritable. You might notice that you start to feel just a little better right away.

Determine if There Is a Clear Source

Sometimes, the source of irritability is obvious. Screaming children who won’t listen to your directions, for example, can ignite irritability after a long day.

At other times, you might just feel like you “woke up on the wrong side of the bed.” You may feel angry or frustrated without really knowing why. A little self-reflection might help you recognize that you’re stressed out or that youhaven’t spent much time caring for yourselflately.

You might also consider if you need to get something to eat. Being “hangry” is a real thing.A drop in blood sugar might cause a spike in irritability.

Take a Few Deep Breaths

Taking a few slow, deep breathscan calm your physiological response.When your body grows a little calmer, it helps your brain grow calmer too.

When you’re feeling stressed and irritable, try inhaling slowly through your nose to the count of three. Hold your breath for one second, then exhale slowly through pursed lips for a count of three. Do this three times and see if you feel a little better.

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Take a Break

When you’re working on a frustrating project orin an environment that is increasing your stress levels, sometimes the best thing you can do is take a break. Walk away for a minute and take a time-out.

Think of your irritability as a sign that you’re running low on batteries (similar to the way your digital devices do). Taking a quick break might be all you need to charge your batteries again so you can re-enter the situation feeling refreshed.

Whether a break for you means a quick walk around the building or a few minutes oflistening to musicin your bedroom with the door shut, find something that can help you calm down fast.

Get a Healthy Dose of Physical Activity

Research shows that gettingexercise can be good for your mental health.Physical activity has been used as an effective treatment for anxiety, mood disorder, eating disorders, and substance use disorders. So if irritability stems from a mental health issue, working out can help.

On the flip side, however, too much exercise can increase irritability.This may be especially true if you’re dieting or overtraining. So, make sure you’re getting healthy doses of physical activity but not too much. If your exercise regimen seems to be worsening your mood, talk to your physician.

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Chew Gum

Chewing gum can be aquick way to relieve stress, which may be helpful in reducing your irritability. A study found that people felt less anxious and less stressed when they were chewing gum.It also improved their focus and attention.

So the next time you feel a little irritable, reach for a piece of gum. You might find that it helps you feel a little calmer and happier.

Reframe Your Negative Thoughts

When you’re dealing with an inconvenience like a traffic jam, you might start thinking thoughts that fuel your irritability. Thinking something like, “I hate wasting my life in traffic!” can cause you to feel worse.

If you notice yourself dwelling on the unfairness of a situation or thinking about how much you dislike something,reframe it. Stick to the facts, rather than your judgments and emotions surrounding those facts.

In the case of a traffic jam, for example, you might remind yourself that there are millions of cars on the road every day and traffic jams are bound to happen.

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Get Professional Help

Irritability can be a sign of a mental health issue, like depression or anxiety.So if your irritability lingers for a couple of weeks or you are concerned about it, talk to your physician orreach out to a mental health professional. Treating an underlying mental health issue can help resolve your irritability so you can feel better.

A Word From Verywell

If you’re wondering why you are so irritable, this may just be a sign that you need to make some lifestyle changes.Adding a little more self-care into your daily routinemight be all it takes to feel your best.

If, however, you are struggling with irritability and it’s not going away or starting to take a toll on your relationships, reaching out to a therapist can be the first step to finding some relief.

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Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.Waqas A, Rehman A, Malik A, Muhammad U, Khan S, Mahmood N.Association of ego defense mechanisms with academic performance, anxiety and depression in medical students: A mixed methods study.Cureus. 2015;7(9):e337. doi:10.7759/cureus.337Torre JB, Lieberman MD.Putting Feelings Into Words: Affect Labeling as Implicit Emotion Regulation.Emotion Review. 2018;10(2):116-124. doi:10.1177/1754073917742706.Swami V, Hochstöger S, Kargl E, Stieger S.Hangry in the field: An experience sampling study on the impact of hunger on anger, irritability, and affect.PLoS One. 2022;17(7):e0269629. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0269629de Wit AE, Giltay EJ, de Boer MK, et al.Predictors of irritability symptoms in mildy depressed perimenopausal women.Psychoneuroendocrinol. 2021;126:105128. doi:10.1016/j.psyneuen.2021.105128Vidal-Ribas P, Brotman MA, Valdivieso I, Leibenluft E, Stringaris A.The status of irritability in psychiatry: A conceptual and quantitative review.J Am Acad Child Adolesc Psychiatry. 2016;55(7):556-570. doi:10.1016/j.jaac.2016.04.014Dziurkowska E, Weselowski M.Cortisol as a biomarker of mental disorder severity.J Clin Med. 2021;10(21):5204. doi:10.3390/jcm10215204Perciavalle V, Blandini M, Fecarotta P, et al.The role of deep breathing on stress.Neurolog Sci. 2017;38:451-458. doi:10.1007/s10072-016-2790-8Chekroud SR, Gueorguieva R, Zheutlin AB, et al.Association between physical exercise and mental health in 1.2 million individuals in the USA between 2011 and 2015: a cross-sectional study.Psychiatry. 2018;5(9):739-746. doi:10.1016/S2215-0366(18)30227-XGottschall JS, Davis JJ, Hastings B, Porter HJ.Exercise time and intensity: How much is too much?Int J Sports Physiol Perform. 2020;15(6):808-815. doi:10.1123/ijspp.2019-0208Allen AP, Smith AP.Chewing gum: cognitive performance, mood, well-being, and associated physiology.Biomed Res Int. 2015;2015:654806. doi:10.1155/2015/654806

Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Read oureditorial processto learn more about how we fact-check and keep our content accurate, reliable, and trustworthy.

Waqas A, Rehman A, Malik A, Muhammad U, Khan S, Mahmood N.Association of ego defense mechanisms with academic performance, anxiety and depression in medical students: A mixed methods study.Cureus. 2015;7(9):e337. doi:10.7759/cureus.337Torre JB, Lieberman MD.Putting Feelings Into Words: Affect Labeling as Implicit Emotion Regulation.Emotion Review. 2018;10(2):116-124. doi:10.1177/1754073917742706.Swami V, Hochstöger S, Kargl E, Stieger S.Hangry in the field: An experience sampling study on the impact of hunger on anger, irritability, and affect.PLoS One. 2022;17(7):e0269629. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0269629de Wit AE, Giltay EJ, de Boer MK, et al.Predictors of irritability symptoms in mildy depressed perimenopausal women.Psychoneuroendocrinol. 2021;126:105128. doi:10.1016/j.psyneuen.2021.105128Vidal-Ribas P, Brotman MA, Valdivieso I, Leibenluft E, Stringaris A.The status of irritability in psychiatry: A conceptual and quantitative review.J Am Acad Child Adolesc Psychiatry. 2016;55(7):556-570. doi:10.1016/j.jaac.2016.04.014Dziurkowska E, Weselowski M.Cortisol as a biomarker of mental disorder severity.J Clin Med. 2021;10(21):5204. doi:10.3390/jcm10215204Perciavalle V, Blandini M, Fecarotta P, et al.The role of deep breathing on stress.Neurolog Sci. 2017;38:451-458. doi:10.1007/s10072-016-2790-8Chekroud SR, Gueorguieva R, Zheutlin AB, et al.Association between physical exercise and mental health in 1.2 million individuals in the USA between 2011 and 2015: a cross-sectional study.Psychiatry. 2018;5(9):739-746. doi:10.1016/S2215-0366(18)30227-XGottschall JS, Davis JJ, Hastings B, Porter HJ.Exercise time and intensity: How much is too much?Int J Sports Physiol Perform. 2020;15(6):808-815. doi:10.1123/ijspp.2019-0208Allen AP, Smith AP.Chewing gum: cognitive performance, mood, well-being, and associated physiology.Biomed Res Int. 2015;2015:654806. doi:10.1155/2015/654806

Waqas A, Rehman A, Malik A, Muhammad U, Khan S, Mahmood N.Association of ego defense mechanisms with academic performance, anxiety and depression in medical students: A mixed methods study.Cureus. 2015;7(9):e337. doi:10.7759/cureus.337

Torre JB, Lieberman MD.Putting Feelings Into Words: Affect Labeling as Implicit Emotion Regulation.Emotion Review. 2018;10(2):116-124. doi:10.1177/1754073917742706.

Swami V, Hochstöger S, Kargl E, Stieger S.Hangry in the field: An experience sampling study on the impact of hunger on anger, irritability, and affect.PLoS One. 2022;17(7):e0269629. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0269629

de Wit AE, Giltay EJ, de Boer MK, et al.Predictors of irritability symptoms in mildy depressed perimenopausal women.Psychoneuroendocrinol. 2021;126:105128. doi:10.1016/j.psyneuen.2021.105128

Vidal-Ribas P, Brotman MA, Valdivieso I, Leibenluft E, Stringaris A.The status of irritability in psychiatry: A conceptual and quantitative review.J Am Acad Child Adolesc Psychiatry. 2016;55(7):556-570. doi:10.1016/j.jaac.2016.04.014

Dziurkowska E, Weselowski M.Cortisol as a biomarker of mental disorder severity.J Clin Med. 2021;10(21):5204. doi:10.3390/jcm10215204

Perciavalle V, Blandini M, Fecarotta P, et al.The role of deep breathing on stress.Neurolog Sci. 2017;38:451-458. doi:10.1007/s10072-016-2790-8

Chekroud SR, Gueorguieva R, Zheutlin AB, et al.Association between physical exercise and mental health in 1.2 million individuals in the USA between 2011 and 2015: a cross-sectional study.Psychiatry. 2018;5(9):739-746. doi:10.1016/S2215-0366(18)30227-X

Gottschall JS, Davis JJ, Hastings B, Porter HJ.Exercise time and intensity: How much is too much?Int J Sports Physiol Perform. 2020;15(6):808-815. doi:10.1123/ijspp.2019-0208

Allen AP, Smith AP.Chewing gum: cognitive performance, mood, well-being, and associated physiology.Biomed Res Int. 2015;2015:654806. doi:10.1155/2015/654806

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